Three Ways to 'Move On.'

Not many of us can forget the growing up years. I consider myself very lucky to have friends who have been with me from the time I stepped into school. Those days still bring back memories as vivid as it is when you see kids growing up in front of you. It is perhaps these memories, strongly entrenched in mind, that makes me wonder how to 'move on' from certain situations.

Caught in an unusual situation, I keep hearing from friends and relatives- 'you have to move on,' man. Well, they have my family well being in mind and there is no doubt it is being said in good faith. The unfortunate part is that nobody has a clue on 'how to move on.'  A friend of mine said, 'forget what happened, forget the past and focus on the days ahead.' I nodded in agreement. Unfortunately, I happened to have an exciting past. Days with my elder brother in school, at the hostel, cricket at our ancestral home, trekking in the mountains of Munnar. Well, the list goes on. And, memories are so strong that I feel it all happened a day earlier. How can one forget a life changing event then? The fact is - one cannot. What is the other way out? Here are my thoughts.

a. Relive the wonderful days - If the past is so wonderful, it should be worth sharing. The days with my daughter was unfortunately cut short. But then, she has left such marvellous memories that I can never get tired of speaking about the same. In fact, it makes me feel very happy.

b. Expand the network and connect the nodes - There shouldn't be a dull moment in life or so I feel. And, one slips into manufacturing unwanted thoughts when there is nothing to look forward. A strong network of friends and relatives, who can be called anytime and who calls you often can possibly cheer you up. More importantly, identify the people who will help you expand the circle of friends or for that matter reach the right people at the right time.

c. Don't forget the mask - Let us face it. Not many would want to see a glum face. Remember, what you get is what you give. If you appear glum, others would think you are and treat you accordingly. Let sun shine.

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